Season Two How To Cope With Alcoholism On A Day To Day Basis

My mission is to assist people around the world in healing their alcoholism and start living to the highest potential. I do this by providing my knowledge of the success principles. I truly believe that people deserve the happiness and love they desire.

My ultimate goal for everyone is to maximize results!

It’s time to own what is already inside of you. No matter what happens in the world today we all can understand that the ultimate answer to every question is Love, Compassion, Empathy, Kindness, and Gratitude, for yourself, for everyone, for everything.

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“How We Became Happy” The True Life Path With Tomoko & Stefan The ultimate answer to every question is Love, Compassion, Empathy, Kindness, and Gratitude, for yourself, for everyone, for everything.

Former Morahara victim · Tomoko Ota who lives in Canada!

A Canadian man who got married internally marries to Moral harassment!
Immediately after international divorce, divorce & single mother life, arrested accommodation and compulsory repatriation, after having remarried with the same man again, accused the DV shelter with his son. Afterwards, after experiencing near-death, he began to walk towards the couple’s rebirth, and former Morahara Canadian husband has always turned into the best understander with a smile.

And now, I do counselling and seminars for people who are suffering from a marital relationship such as spiritual DV, economic DV, verbal abuse etc, which are not normally conversational, and always forced to see the partner’s complexion.
We are offering five step programs online to help Japanese families around the world suffer from Moral harassment DV couple relationships, to help them heal their lives from DV couple relationship.

http://s.ameblo.jp/jibun39/

元モラハラ被害者·カナダ在住の太田智子です!

国際結婚したカナダ人男性が、モラハラに豹変!

国際別居·離婚&シングルマザー生活、逮捕収容·強制送還などを経て、再び同じ男性と国際再婚した直後に、息子を連れてDVシェルターへ非難。その後臨死体験をへて、夫婦再生への道を歩み始め、元モラハラカナダ人夫は、いつも笑顔で一番の理解者に変貌を遂げました。

そして現在は、精神的DV、経済的DV、暴言など、普通に会話が成立たず、いつも相手の顔色を見ることを強いられるような夫婦関係に悩む人向けにカウンセリングやセミナーを行ってます。

私達は、モラハラDV夫婦関係に悩む、世界中の日本人女性に対し、家庭を円満にするための5つのステッププログラムをオンラインで提供し、彼らのモラハラDV夫婦関係&を癒す支援しています.

http://s.ameblo.jp/jibun39/

 

Taking Responsibility Of Your Toxic Marriage

7 Tips in taking responsibility for your marriage

If you want to know whether you take responsibility for your life, read the following 7 points and ask yourself honestly ‘Do I apply this principle in my life’?

1- Knowing who you want to be in a marriage

A successful and happy marriage requires love within oneself. You need to know the person that you wish to be and what is important to you. Clear Purpose and Values will guide your decision-making and empower you to prioritise and focus on the important matters.

 2- Knowing what you want in a healthy marriage

When you know what you want from life, you can take responsibility for each decision and action that you take. These decisions can be based on their ability to help you move closer to the life you want. You set effective goals and you pursue them.

 3- Stop blaming your spouse

Blaming your life partner is the easy way out and it is a trap that we all fall into. But, when you blame your partner what you are really doing is stating that you are incapable of rectifying the situation. When something goes wrong, blaming others strips you of your power but when you take responsibility; your primary focus is to identify what went wrong so that you can rectify it. Even if somebody else screwed up; remember the following:

  • It’s unlikely that they deliberately screwed up
  • You are probably the person who asked them to perform the task
  • You could have checked beforehand whether they could do what was asked of them
  • Most importantly, throwing around blame will not solve the problem that has happened

To rectify a problem, you need to take responsibility, identify what went wrong, determine what you can do differently next time and, put your plan into action. If you need to tell somebody else that their performance needs to improve, tell the truth approach. Choose to empower with the truth rather than attack.

 4- Are you blaming yourself for the actions

Just because you are not going to blame others; it does not mean that you should blame yourself. Let me be clear, whether you blame others or you blame yourself, blame weakens those involved and blocks your rational thought and creativity. You do not need to punish someone; you need to solve a problem. Take responsibility for the situation, identify the changes you need to make and make them.

 5- Being honest with yourself no matter what

In order to take responsibility for your life, you must first give up all of the excuses. You know those old stories that you pass off as facts of life so that you do not even try to make the necessary changes, e.g.:

  • I’m too old
  • I’m too young
  • I’m too busy
  • I can’t be loved
  • Those things don’t happen for people like me

There are many more examples which I could give but I am sure that you get the point. Cut the excuses; cut the B.S.; take responsibility for your life and make the changes which you would really like to make.

 6- Recognizing that you benefit from the Status quo in a marriage

If something in your marriage needs to change but you are not changing it; you are benefiting from the situation in some way. You could easily come up with excuses but when you take responsibility, you identify the ways in which you are benefiting from the current situation and then you attempt to maintain those benefits even after you have made the necessary changes.

For example, if you were spending too much time drinking alcohol down the pub, you would first examine what the benefits were. If you realised that the benefits were that you enjoyed socialising with your friends, you could choose to organise social events in a different environment e.g. dinner parties, theatre, cinema etc. This would greatly increase your chances of successfully changing your habits around drinking. However, if you fail to acknowledge and recognise the benefits, your chances of success are greatly diminished.

 7- Knowing you have choices within your life

Of all the silly stories that we tell ourselves, perhaps the silliest of them all is that ‘I had no choice’. When we do something that we regret or that we know that we really should not have done, we pull out this beauty of an excuse.  We think that it absolves us of all responsibility for the outcomes of our decisions.

Regardless of the situations, there is always a choices. It may be an unpleasant choice, and it may feel as though there is no realistic alternative but you do have to make a choice. The most effective people take responsibility for their choices and are willing to stand by them; even if it makes them unpopular.

Taking responsibility starts with a clear sense of purpose. Discover your purpose within your marriage.

If you want to create a happy, health and successful marriage, you need to take responsibility. To take responsibility is not a single action. You need to take responsibility for each and every decision that you make in your life; the things you choose to do and the things you choose not to do. There is nothing wrong with dreaming of a better marriage, in fact, visualisation can be a powerful tool but unless you take responsibility and take action, that better life will never be anything more than a hope and a dream.